No parent wants to spank the child but there are occurrences when parents lose their control. They say, “He is so naughty” or “She needs to learn discipline” or “I do it only when he is just uncontrollable. What can I do?” We understand your feelings. But discipline should never be confused with punishment. Discipline is a positive learning while punishment is a negative reaction.
Then, what to do? First we must find out and understand why a child misbehaves. It could be the feeling that he/she isn't getting enough positive attention. If you react in such a situation by yelling or spanking then the child might get the message that this is the only way to get your attention. So it becomes counter-productive.
Be patient. Don’t shout. Saying it in lower volume always works better. Try to listen to him/her. Make the atmosphere conducive. Show your concern. Make your child see logic in what you are saying. And make it SHORT. Lengthy explanations are also counter-productive.
Sometimes jealousy, stress or frustration may also be the cause of bad behaviour. You should observe it. Teach him/her to respect others. And the best way to do this is to show respect to him/her. Children learn by imitating. Be a ‘right’ role model for your child.
Discipline is taught by example. Set rules for your child as well as for yourself. Show your child that you’re following rules set for you then affectionately tell that you expect him/her to follow rules set for him/her. Then, do not forget to give your ‘positive attention’. Show it, say it... that you noticed it. This will imbibe discipline as ‘way of life’ in your child.
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